Whats does it take to live a healthy lifestyle?

We all hear that wisdom comes with age; this is true on every level. The wisdom for me was the moment I switch my attention from weight loss to taking better care of myself. Today they call it self-care. Aging doesn’t scare me, but what I do want is to age without pain. I want to embody it with grace and acceptance rather. I’m blessed to do the work that I love, and now I feel comfortable in my skin, with what I have and who I have become. This inspires me every day to be more loving towards myself.

You know-how, in the 20’s we take everything for granted, right? We drink too much; we live on junk food, we sleep very little. Still, we can get up and go about our day, and the body says yes and keeps us moving, which is not so easy to do in the ’30s and ’40s. This is where nurturing is more important. Thanks to practicing Pilates, I’ve gained a new awareness of my body and movement, which made me realized that it is not that hard to stay healthy. Without drugs and botox (if that’s the choice you want to pursue). It’s a matter of feeling happy with who you are and with what you have. Here is how:

To practice Pilates, you need to focus your mind on feeling what’s going on inside yourself. By using your mind and every cell of your body, you can tell your body what you want, and in turn, you will get that feeling that you are one and whole. This was very, very empowering for me. Understanding how my body works and that I’m always in control of myself and my life was a huge awakening moment. 

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How do you deal with your own negative and fearful thoughts?

When we love our family, we’ve fearful thoughts that tell us we are not doing enough for them. And not being there enough for them. Especially as women, we’re always feeling guilty even though we are doing everything we can. But the worst one so far for me, and this is something that I rarely share, is the fear of dying before my children. Now, I know that we are not immortal that somehow we are all gonna have to face our own death. But death in itself doesn’t scare me, but what it represents – the fear of dying and leaving my children alone. They are still at a very young age, you know, and they will have no support as they grow up. That’s my biggest fear. 

But unfortunately, no matter how much I stress about it, there’s nothing that I can do. Because none of us know what’s going to happen. I’m particularly someone who doesn’t like to put my feeling out in the open 24/7. `because I don’t want to amplify the dark thoughts or to make them real. For me, the best thing is not to focus my attention on what is going wrong. But instead, to do the things that I can have a positive impact. That helps me a lot to stay sane. I’m grateful that my work gives me a lot of satisfaction and distracts me from thinking about it. I guess what we call workaholic is the decision of spending time doing things that’s worth giving energy. Rather than spending time on negative thoughts. Which, as I said, amplifies our fears and weaknesses. The mind is quite cunning, and it plays tricks on us. And if we stay in these negative thoughts all the time, we can actually make ourselves paranoid. Don’t get me wrong; it’s good to share how we feel, but then we have to do it once and then move on and not dwell on it. In that way, ‘the law of attraction’ has a point don’t focus your mind on what you don’t want to attract in your life. It’s not about staying positive all the time but making better choices. 

But if things don’t get well, and those thoughts get out of control, then we must seek professional help. It is wise is to see someone, to be able to verbalize what’s going on inside our head. To put it out in the open and let it go means to find a solution. This action is usually cleansing. To be clear I’m not asking to go dig in childhood to analyze or find problems that don’t exist. In fact, psychologists should know that sometimes it’s not necessary to go dig in the past. But to help us release the fears that hold us hostage. A way of reorganizing and rewiring our thoughts. I did a coaching session a few years ago for a career change. That action led me to co-found Culture Emulsion. It’s good to do the same thing when it comes to our personal life, when things get dark into our heads and before making things bigger than it actually is. It’s good to step back and talk to someone to help us find some perspective. It’s a way to reflect on what we are actually thinking inside our heads, -something that happens to all us (overthinking). We all from time to time hit that wall and we don’t want to confront the truth. That’s the one that starts to eat our happiness.

How did Pilates help you with your life?

Before I started Pilates, I was doing Body Balance, where I had a small Pilates taste. Little did I know, though, that there’s more to Pilates than I originally thought. When practicing traditional Pilates, I have learned what integration meant: to connect the mind, the body, the fascia, and all the parts. Knowing that to truly control all these parts needs to be one and under my own conscious control. That’s also why I love this method so much because we are all one way or another trying to “ be in control “ of ourselves. Like I said before, we can rarely control the world. But by working on ourselves, which is the only control we really have, – we receive the internal strength. This makes us feel that we can handle life a little easier and any circumstances that come our way, big or small. I truly believe that every woman should know that – this is our superpower. By taking care of ourselves, we are nurturing that power and go about life with that thought. I love that with Pilates, I can tone my body, correct my posture, and keep all my joints healthy. But the most important thing for me is to keep my mind strong and centered, which Pilates helps me with.

Cecile Herman, Co-founder of Culture Emulsion

www.culture-emulsion.com